Now desire for what? Desire to be desired, desire to be seen, to feel important, to have someone’s attention, someone who cares about you, desire to feel alive, desire to reconnect with lost parts of yourself. The kiss that you only imagine giving can be just as powerful as hours of actual love making. The mind is the most important sexual organ. But today that we don’t have religious institutions necessarily telling us what is the king of sins, it is left to us and our relationships to make sense of this, to define it, to know where our lines will be with our partners. To know when we crush those lines. If it’s about thinking, if it’s about remembering, it’s about fantasizing while you’re with your partner. If it’s a subject that is deeply entrenched in our lives and often very difficult for us to open up. And yet, we need to because we need to help people who suffer with it.
LEWIS HOWES: Otherwise, there’s always going to be so much more conflict in the relationship if we don’t talk about it, right?
The one and only was called God, not your lover
ESTHER PEREL: Look, the majority of people don’t talk about any of this. Their desires for others, the boundaries they want to establish with each other, what they share sexually, what is private, what is the space of their erotic freedom. …
Kent Wells Executive officer experienced with a demonstrated story of more than a decade that works in the industry of Fine Arts developing more than a hundred collections of private and corporate art. Author of two books, contemporary art curator shows nationally and internationally. Creative designer and curator of art-centered experiences.