Some men use the Internet to find relationships. Others use it to run from them.
For this article, I used experiences that women shared me about online dating to describe 11 types of heterosexual men who are drawn to Internet dating. I realize, as do you, that there are infinite varieties of men who engage in online dating for infinite reasons. Many more could be included on this list, and some men may fit into many categories. Still, in the world of online dating, some types seem more prevalent than others. Here are 11 categories of men you might encounter when dating online:
He fantasizes about a beautiful love life or sex life but has too much anxiety to actually let any potential connection leave his protective computer screen. He’s just not ready to involve himself in real-time dating with people he may connect with online. There are many reasons why this happens, but at the core, he is not ready or able to begin a substantive relationship, regardless of what his profile says.
Rather, he moves from one online connection to the next, or back and forth between many, and he barely, if ever, leaves the house. Internet dating enables him not to engage in a meaningful way. When he needs connection or the fantasy of a relationship, he can effectively “order out” for a date. By avoiding actual human contact he isn’t forced to push his boundaries or risk challenging the perfection of his fantasy woman with the experience of a real-life woman. For many reasons, it is difficult for him to make room for something real.
This primarily 20 to mid 30’s guy is excited about the possibility of expanding his horizons and meeting new people. He is bold, tolerant, open, and ready to explore what online dating has to offer. Because Internet dating has been a part of his generational experience, he is more comfortable with it as a normal mode of communication and meeting people, and is generally more open to the process and experience.
Therefore, when he connects and makes plans online, he likely follows through, sometimes sooner, sometimes later. …
Kent Wells Executive officer experienced with a demonstrated story of more than a decade that works in the industry of Fine Arts developing more than a hundred collections of private and corporate art. Author of two books, contemporary art curator shows nationally and internationally. Creative designer and curator of art-centered experiences.